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The Caffmos Community is a safe, friendly and informative environment for older gay men and their admirers to enjoy new contacts and find friendship. Hi John- My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years and things have been good. We were engaged for 3 months, when he suddenly decided to call it off.I thought things were going great and now the only thing he says to me is, "I don’t know what I want right now, but I know I don't want this." I don't understand how you can propose to someone and then just end it. We haven't talked in a month and we don't see each other.I've started reading your book, yet, one of the most powerful concepts in that book is men are like rubber bands.Unfortunately oxytocin naturally lowers testosterone. This drop in testosterone can cause a man to lose confidence, doubt everything in his life and say things like "I don't know what I want right now, but I don't want this." So half of the natural rhythm in a relationship is a man acting like a rubber band.He will get close and then he'll start to pull away until he feels good about himself and then he will get close again.Now I’m not claiming any rights on this theory, I’m pretty sure it has been around for many years in various forms, but just thought it’d be useful to put it out there again for any of you that may need reminding of it. My version is not to get confused with that of the author John Gray, who in his book, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus states; “Men are like rubber bands.
If your partner is pulling away out of anger, or is simply avoiding you, there is likely something else going on. " These painful thoughts often cause women to chase their partner with demands for an explanation. He may feel pressured because his partner doesn't trust him, or he may even feel that he is incapable of making her happy.
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