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He had a roommate and I just figured he used it to take pics of himself for the computer.It bothered me because I didn’t really know, but I got over it and let it go.I just don’t know how to handle this whole thing, I love him dearly and it hurts very badly...He’s got so many good qualities and in my heart I feel as though he truly loves me, would never hurt me, but-I know I’ve babbled, I just wanted to make sure everything was clear. On one hand, your boyfriend has been turning to other women for sexual gratification—leaving you feeling hurt, betrayed and rejected.4 months ago he received an email from another girl, not sure what she said, but he replied with I’m happily engaged but thank you:),-needless to say that one gave me SOME relief (I saw others where he told them he had a g/f and was just looking for fun, others said "nothing dirty just wanted to chat"..), and the one before that was one month before he asked me to marry him-he told her that he was busy with work and stuff and that he missed her and wanted to say hi you... he describes himself as shy in the beginning but get past that and he’s got a very dirty mind...4 months before he asked me to marry him he wrote and I quote "awe you left i was gonna say hit me up on yahoo sometime and i’ll show you whatever you like same sn as aff *** take care.... and his ideal match is a woman that’s not afraid to say exactly what she wants. I don’t how often he’s does things-chats, gets on the phone, I don’t even know if he does it anymore... I’m not about to purchase something to hook up to the computer to follow what he does...Typically, what happens when you try to control a partner’s behavior, especially a behavior that is very rewarding to him, a partner will learn to better hide or conceal his activities (see when people lie).
I had always wondered why he kept it set up right next to his computer when we didn’t use it anymore with each other.
I told him that I didn’t doubt his love for me, but was this someone he was talking to?
He said that I doubted his love for me and that it was just some girl online.
Eventually, he went and deleted all the pornography and included the pictures of that girl. I finally broke down, I knew his email password, and I know it’s wrong, but it didn’t stop me, I just needed to know if he was talking to anyone-more than just friends.
He said it was to put an end to everything and I should never doubt his love for me. Well, I continued to use his computer and I would check every once in awhile just to see if I’d find any new pics of any girls. I was searching for a site I had gone to before so I pulled down the bar where you can see past sites visited and ratemybody.com, adultfriendfinder and others were listed. I understand what these sites are and at first I just thought he was going to them just to look at the women. So I found emails from adultfriendfinder telling him he’s got new matches or so and so was contacting him.I told him I felt bad that he was looking at the pictures; obviously I’m not what he was looking at.