Dealing with kids when dating again after spouse dies
As widower Abel Keogh notes in the article, "Ten Dating Tips for Widows and Widowers," new love interests in your life "shouldn't have to compete against a ghost." The dangers of dating too soon after the loss of a spouse include not having grieved properly, making comparisons, and coping with judgment from family and friends.
If the loss of a spouse is due to divorce rather than death, there can be the added dimension of bitterness and emotional turmoil caused by the breakup of the relationship.
Dating again requires emotional stability and a willingness to be open to a new relationship -- critical components that often only develop with time.
If the loss of a spouse is due to divorce rather than death, you may still be coping with bitterness and anger towards your former partner -- particularly if the split was not amicable.
" at AARP.org, suggests that those who are still grieving the loss of a spouse are not yet prepared to date.
A partner still distraught by grief may latch on to a new relationship prematurely out of desperation for love and physical contact.
Losing a partner to divorce can be just as traumatic as losing someone to death -- without the same level of support from family and friends.
Make your emotional stability priority -- over and above any new dating opportunities. Jessica Bemis is a full-time, working mom of two who lost her husband to testicular cancer in November 2011.