Dating teenage children
Other times, they’re snapping off and driving little shanks into your heart.You never know what you’re going to get with a teenager, and entering the jungle with someone new you’re seeing can be even more difficult.The reasonis simple: A child's own identity is very much tied to that of his family.When the family disintegrates, achild's sense of self is threatened, even if he maintains strong ties to both parents.Already anxious about the changes in their lives due to the divorce, and often feeling closer to a parent than they did before, they may now feel that a trusthas been broken -- exactly at the point when trust and reassurance are most needed. Rather than forgo romance, Neuman and parents interviewed for this article suggest addressing children's concerns head-on before dating begins: Make sure the introduction of your new significant other takes place only after you've had a privateconversation with your child about the relationship.Then, Neuman suggests choosing a setting where the focus will be on an activity, not "getting to know each other better." Meeting at a playground or going to see a baseball game will be easier for kids than making conversation with a stranger in a restaurant.
That's not an argument for or against divorce, for or against dating.The first couple of times we spent any time together, she was silent.