Dating after divorce and child
Some may be resistant to anyone who appears to be taking the place of a parent.
However, in general, when someone is friendly, pays attention to them, and doesn’t try to be a disciplinarian, many children can form an attachment to a new partner as they spend more and more time with that person.
It can be difficult for the other parent to get that news.
It may also be difficult for the children if they are unsure whether it is okay to tell the other parent or unprepared for an emotional reaction.
• Reassure them that you will not bring someone into the family unless you feel comfortable that they can fit in.
Once you are ready to have your children meet your new partner, don’t surprise them by having the person show up unexpectedly at an event.
Meet new people when they are with their other parent.
Children are able to understand that adults need time with other adults, just like they need time with other children.
The innocent new friend can be deposed by the other side’s lawyer (that is, asked questions that are taken under oath and recorded by a stenographer or even videotaped) and subpoenaed to testify at trial.
” This question comes up quite often for soon-to-be divorcees.
And, the simple answer should always be: “Not until your divorce is final.” But, life is rarely simple.
If your new partner will be in your life, there will be ample opportunity for more direct interactions.
• Before telling your children, let your ex-partner know.
• Be honest with your children about when you are getting ready to start dating. Don’t give your children control over when you start to venture into that world, but in general, let them know your intentions and ask for their feelings about it.