Andy stanley no dating for a year
As I stumble through the awkward limbo of single, yet soon-to-be-married, I’ve tried to read every resource tagged within the “marriage,” “love,” and “relationships” genre.This, and the fact that I was desperate to escape the Grey from every possible angle (though I’m grateful for their messages), prompted me to download a copy of Pastor Andy Stanley’s new book on romantic relationships to my Kindle. Geared towards the young, unwed, and culturally savvy, Stanley explains in the introduction that his purpose for writing mean? Still I pressed onward with hopes of encountering helpful gems of wisdom and Christian counsel over the next 200 pages.It didn’t end pretty and somehow the series from Andy Stanley “Love, Sex and Dating” appeared all over social media (thanks God).I’m sure many of you have heard of it, and if you have seen it, it probably blew your mind too.If marriage is the end goal for love, sex, and dating—and presumably Stanley would agree that it is—then a helpful launching pad would be to examine the purpose and parameters of this covenant before moving forward.I’m grateful that Stanley tackles other tough issues like sexual purity before marriage and how to explain biblical submission to our friends.However, his ambiguity threaded throughout his book actually does more harm than good. I committed to reading this book from cover to cover and as Stanley jumped head first into debunking myths like “maybe a baby will help?
While presenting I Corinthians 13:4-8, Stanley moves slowly through each of the Apostle Paul’s love descriptors careful to paint a clear picture of what love looks like when it is “not easily angered” or “rejoices with truth.” By using Scripture—an overall rare occurrence in this book—Stanley creates an easily digestible to-do and not-to-do list with practical, contemporary examples that squash the fairytale “love” narratives inundating our culture. I was disappointed with Stanley’s book for a couple reasons, the first being its lack of depth.But if readers don’t have a foundational understanding of the moral implications of the marriage covenant, then the rest of the discussion is pointless.